Most women are extremely happy to be with a gentleman who is some how a “fixer-upper” and someone who is willing to focus on self-improvement. There’s nothing more repulsive than an unmotivated man who’s happy with mediocracy.
When it comes to finding a relationship partner, men in general tend to be much simpler than women. Women, however, tend to be much more complicated. Some guys need a lot of help understanding what women look for in a man.
From an African woman perspective, I’m going to elaborate and throw more light on few important qualities every woman looks for in a Man.
1. Intelligence
While intelligence should never be flaunted (there are few things as unattractive as a guy who thinks he “knows it all”), it’s an attractive trait. When you come across as interesting and humble, you’ll find it much easier to charm the right woman.
If you’re an expert in a particular area, use it as an “I know about this and would love to show you” way, and not as an “I’m so much smarter than you” way. Intelligence is attractive, and women like to learn from someone special.
2. Independence
Women want to be with someone who can take care of themselves. You’ll need to demonstrate that you’re independent and capable. That means making your own decisions, cooking yourself dinner, and paying your rent on time.
Women don’t want to be your mother, and it’s crucial that you can prove that you can carry your own weight (and your partner’s when necessary). It’s a definite turnoff when guys are in constant need of motivation, help, advice, companionship, and reassurance.
3. Honesty
Most women are looking for a man that’s honest. Without honesty, there’s no way to build trust. Men hoping to settle down with that perfect woman will need to be honest and direct.
No woman wants to play games, and they’re not interested in trying to figure out if you’re telling the truth. Honesty is crucial from day one.
4. Attention
This doesn’t mean that women expect to have your attention every minute of every day. But they do want to feel cherished and special. Women love the little things that men do to make them feel good. This could mean complimenting her smile, noticing when she’s cut her hair, or leaving a note in the morning for when she wakes up.
5. Passion
Ask women who have just ended a relationship one of the main reasons the relationship fell apart and you’re likely to hear the word “passion” mentioned. Today, many women are looking for men who can take initiative both inside and outside of the bedroom.
Itimacy is important, and if you’re having issues in the bedroom or suffering from a low drive, you may want to check out this treatment. Even if you are very good with intimacy, women want that passion to continue outside the bedroom. Every woman wants to feel wanted, so asserting yourself sexually is a must.
Small physical touches like a stroke on the back or a kiss on the neck are important as well and will help keep the passion alive in your relationship.
6. Romance
Sure, it can’t always be chocolates and roses, and you probably won’t be making out continually throughout the day. Most women are juggling family, friends, and work responsibilities after all. Often, the romance seems to disappear once men are in a committed relationship.
Keep the romance alive with a weekly date night. Light a few candles, put on some nice music, or run a bath for the lady in your life.
7. Sense of Humor
One of the top traits women look for in a man? A sense of humor. Being funny simply makes you more attractive, and women are always looking for a man who can make them laugh.
This doesn’t mean you need to be continually cracking jokes. But being able to laugh at yourself is key. No one wants to be with someone who takes themselves too seriously.
8. Communication
Women like to talk. A lot. According to DailyMail, women speak approximately 20,000 words a day, which is 13,000 more than most men.
Your partner may know you love her but would appreciate hearing you say it too. So let her know you think she’s hot. Tell her she looks beautiful. It helps her feel confident and lets her know you can see the effort she has put in.
It’s also important to communicate when you’re not happy. There’s nothing more frustrating than hearing someone say they’re “fine” when they’re not fine. Women appreciate men who are great communicators and avoid being passive aggressive in the relationship.
9. Attractiveness
Just like men are attracted to good-looking women, the same goes for women. Keeping yourself groomed, staying in shape, wearing clothes that fit, and regularly bathing goes a long way.
This doesn’t mean you need to look like Brad Pitt. But staying on top of your personal hygiene and taking pride in your appearance will go a long way.
